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Miscellaneous => General Chat => Topic started by: Weegee on August 16, 2011, 12:46:34 AM
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WHY DON'T YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND?
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I would never be able to handle the responsibility of a relationship.
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My wife wouldn't let me.
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It's not something I'm interested in pursuing right now.
I'm unattractive.
What Kuro said.
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Well, for starters, I'm going to be moving to Seattle in a few months, and long-distance relationships have never sounded that stable to me. Besides, most of the girls in my town are either drugged-out, fat, and/or too shallow to bother with.
When I get up to the city, though, I'll probably be too busy with my job, trying to maintain A-level grades to get into law school, and writing to worry about emotional baggage.
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I could give excuses about my maturity not being at the right level, or how there's no one of interest, but really, I'm not much of a catch. I'm plain to look at at best, but more importantly I'm far too bitter, far too awkward, and far too uninteresting.
...fat, and/or too shallow to bother with.
Yea, forget those shallow chicks, they only care how you look, right?
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My wife wouldn't let me.
This is the only valid excuse anyone is going to have.
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This is the only valid excuse anyone is going to have.
Pt_Peach might disagree with you.
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Pt_Peach might disagree with you.
You homophobic *******.
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I've had horrible luck with every relationship I've been in so far, and all the girls I'm interested in right now are kind of off-limits.
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Because I'm sick and tired of girls bending over backwards to do my bidding. I'm trying my best to keep them away but it's an exhausting, steady stream of girls just throwing themselves at me. I just wish I knew what I'm doing wrong :/
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I'm with Luigison.
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Really? Since when have you two been an item?
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Happiness will only come from within, and while it's nice to have that person there who cares for you, it won't do an iota of good for either of you if you can't care for you. Not to degrade people who are happy in relationships, but I'd much rather be happy and single than sad and taken.
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In theory, I'm holding off until I'm more satisfied with who I am so that I won't feel the need to try and make people like me by putting up facades that will inevitably fall down months or years or decades down the road, possibly bringing down the whole relationship with them.
In practice, I'm shy and socially inept and also just found out that the girl I was crushing on while internally debating whether she was too young for me already has a boyfriend (who happens to be a year older than me).
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Really? Since when have you two been an item?
Darn it. That was supposed to remain a secret. Oops.
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Shh. Don't let Lizard Dude hear.
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I actually do have a girlfriend right now.
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That would explain it.
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Here's my reason:
[Language warning]
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I seem to recall an xkcd that was a little more straightforward than that, but it was still pretty funny.
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Who drew the original comic? That situation is hilariously unlikely.
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Scrolling down, the ending of that comic took me completely by surprise and turned my growing sappiness-induced annoyed frown into a giant grin.
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I believe that is taken from Reddit. Originally the comic contained just the thought-bubble story. Someone else added the last panel afterward.
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It's not originally from Reddit (nothing is), but the surprise ending was indeed a later addition.
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Dangit, it was funnier when I thought the same guy drew both parts at once.
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But the last panel mocks the original writer. A grossly-exaggerated "yeah right" is funnier than a grossly-exaggerated "I suck."
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Scrolling down, the ending of that comic took me completely by surprise and turned my growing sappiness-induced annoyed frown into a giant grin.
Yup.
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But the last panel mocks the original writer. A grossly-exaggerated "yeah right" is funnier than a grossly-exaggerated "I suck."
No, I mean I thought the entire jpeg was one guy's simultaneous idea.
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The first reason I listed is not necessarily a thing anymore.
But hey, at least I'm still unattractive and irresponsible!
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My thoughts on this have changed a lot since starting college.
While I've become rather less insecure and rather more confident, I feel like a romantic relationship would be a very bad idea.
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As usual, I'm not making any progress, but here's a mildly sad tidbit from my brother: So he asked a girl to prom and she said yes, but she won't even casually go out with him because she still wants to date around in the meantime.
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http://www.buzzfeed.com/mjs538/horrible-reactions-to-chris-brown-at-the-grammys
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http://guezadilla.tumblr.com/post/17562841393/heathyr
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I don't go out enough to establish relationships, that and I'm not very good at talking to people, or speaking my mind.
And I stutter a lot.
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For girls, none of those but the first matter. As long as you go to school and look at least sort of pretty, no further effort is needed.
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relationships
no further effort is needed
nope.exe
Sex, maybe, but relationships take effort. If there's no talking and it's just physical, it can't possibly be a relationship because there's no people involved.
Not that that's uncommon.
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Most women have boyfriends because they're good at applying makeup.
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So have we all given up even sorta calling Weegee out for his blatantly sexist remarks?
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"Sexist" and "true" aren't mutually exclusive.
Also Luigison that's racist and you should be ashamed of yourself.
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Most women have boyfriends because they're good at applying makeup.
Forward this to them: http://www.forbes.com/sites/melaniehaiken/2012/03/12/dangerous-beauty-top-5-contaminated-beauty-products/
Also Luigison that's racist and you should be ashamed of yourself.
I agree, and I am. Maybe the Asian guy that sent it to me is racist. "Smart" and "racist" aren't mutually exclusive.
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So fret not, LilKitten, for even the dullest, blandest, most vapid, uninteresting, unremarkable girls are bound to get a boyfriend in high school.
Best of all, he'll be socially obligated to buy you nice things.
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"Sexist" and "true" aren't mutually exclusive.
And "sex" and "relationship" aren't mutually inclusive. There's not some inherent magical quality to sexual stimulation with another person involved that automatically brings companionship and fulfillment and relief from crushing loneliness. Don't envy the wrong people, the wrong things, the wrong solutions. If you have at least one real friend and you jerk off when you feel like it, then you're getting at least as much out of life as your mythical broad-stroked stereotypes are.
And by the way, stereotyping a large group and writing them off as all the same is always, always stupid. Nobody knows anybody well enough to know everything about them -- claiming to know everything you need to know about 3,430,068,894 and a half people (as of 04:47 UTC) (also I'm leaving out the ~50,000,000,000 dead ones) is astronomically ridiculous. Everyone is different. There are women who want sex, there are men who don't. And more importantly, there are people who are actually interested in understanding and connecting with other people. If you look hard enough and you're lucky -- and if you're one of them -- you might find some of them.
(If someone figures out what to do once you've find one, let me know. I never really got that part down.)
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I've had horrible luck with every relationship I've been in so far, and all the girls I'm interested in right now are kind of off-limits.
^ Just popping in here to say that this statement still holds true.
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*Brofist*
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(Not that I deserve one)
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Granted, I'm sure I could put a little more effort into the whole "relationship" thing, but I swear every time it sounds worth it something comes along and makes me realize that I'm probably better off on my own, at least for the time being. Hey, "Pieces" by Sum 41 didn't get to be the second-highest-played song on my computer for nothing.
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Also Luigison that's racist and you should be ashamed of yourself.
Racism. There's a drug for that.
Source: http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/242769.php
Edit: Also saw this today: http://www.thestar.com/news/world/article/1144676--can-the-blood-pressure-pill-propranolol-cure-racism
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It's the only medication where being worried what color the pills are is the first sign that you need them.
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BLUE PILLS ER TAKIN OUR JORBS
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Girlfriend (pretty abruptly) "found the right person for me, and he's not you, sorry."
inb4 "called it"
Do I want to try to look for someone else? Not right now, I don't think. But... maybe?
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Oof. [darn].
*big tight bro hug*
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Sorry, man. :c
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In answer to my own question: No, I don't want to look for someone else right away. I think if I end up in a relationship while I'm still hurt from a previous one, I'd just end up doing more harm than good. In addition to that, there's always the slight chance (that perhaps makes me naive for having faith in it, but OH WELL) that she'll decide that she wants to be back with me after all. I guess time will tell at this point. Still, though, feelsbadman.jpg.
Did I go all lavender again? Whoops.
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Taking her back would be terribly stupid.
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Love is too ill-defined for me to bother with now -- I need things that are absolute.
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Well, er, there IS this one girl that (somehow) likes me (I would say "love", but I'm 14, how would I know what "love" is?) that I've been feeling the same way about for a really long time, now. She's always giving me hugs and saying things like "I'll never leave you, Austin!" and she definitely isn't just friend-zoning me (I know this for sure....), and I've been sheepishly been returning the favor. Neither of us officially said we're going out per sé (The one time that she mentioned dating she called it "our little secret"), but then again, we both know we like each other that way, so, er...is that a relationship?)
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May as well be. Take what you can, kid. Later on it's gonna be a heckuvalot more difficult.
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For girls, none of those but the first matter. As long as you go to school and look at least sort of pretty, no further effort is needed.
Man, I don't go to school, I'm homeschooled.
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I can attest that that does tend to put a damper on classroom relationships.
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Here's a pic of me and my new girlfriend cuddling!
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Well, come to think of it, I finally asked if she's my "girlfriend" after we've become increasingly "romantic" towards each other, plus I worked up the guts to say I loved her. She said yes. feelsgoodman.jpg
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Right on, sir. Best of luck from here on out.
Anyway, not that anyone's clamoring for the latest updates on my love life, but there's not much to report from that front as of now. As you can see, my last post was made at a very late (or early) hour, and the reason for that is because I was hanging out at my friend's apartment and he somewhat abruptly got into a literally hour-long argument/conversation/attempt at consolation with his on-again off-again girlfriend. Him being my friend and all, I sort of get bummed out as well when I can tell things aren't going well with him, and... well, I'm not going to say I "look up to him", but seeing as he's gotten way more action in the past few years than I have in my entire life, it doesn't do much for my hope for a chance of getting a solid relationship when he's not able to keep it together anymore.
Meanwhile, every girl I've been casually interested in approaching at or around UW (that I've seen on a consistent enough basis to merit consideration) has -- at last notice -- got some guy. There was this girl with pinkish hair in my apartment building that got me all hot and bothered every time I saw her, but then I saw her walking down the street holding hands with some dude. I gave her the benefit of the doubt there, especially since I didn't see him again for a while, but they were kissing on the lobby couch when I came downstairs to check my email and stuff one evening, so that... was nice. It was late and I'd already had a rough day, so didn't say anything to him, but in the moment I glared at him before heading back upstairs, my eyes poured powdered glass down his windpipe.
Meanwhile, there's some other girl that kind of looks like her, to the point where I've gotten them confused and mis-snubbed. She's my Plan B at this point, but the way people come and go in an apartment building, it's hard to mingle. Man, colored hair -- reddish colored hair... that's my Kryptonite. There's at least two more girls like that in the building, though one's in a wheelchair and the other is in fact a thirty-something woman. Well, in any case, I'd sure like to not be flying solo at that Asian clubs semiformal coming up in a few weeks.
I'm rambling, aren't I?
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Edit: after posting, realized how mean sounding the joke I was trying to make sounded
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I AM ON A TRAIN AND PINK HAIR GIRL 1 IS RIGHT ACROSS FROM ME WITH THE GUY
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BEAT THE **** OUT OF HIM
BE THE ALPHA MALE
IT'S THE ONLY WAY
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Heck, if I could. They left for somewhere else in the train about half an hour ago, though--hope it wasn't because I was dating at them [darn] near the whole time. Now I have just this Hot Topic-ish gal in te other aisle with her headphones on.
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*staring, not dating
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SHE WILL DO FOR NOW
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SEND HER A PICTURE OF YOURSELF WEARING AN XBOX
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Getting over your ex is difficult when you're always being reminded she's having the time of her life while you're still totally miserable.
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Getting over your ex is difficult when you're always being reminded she's having the time of her life while you're still totally miserable.
Yup. I might add "when you really don't want to get over her because you're not sure if that's the best thing to do."
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I had that trouble for a while, but then she got a new boyfriend. X(
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Right on, sir. Best of luck from here on out.
Thank you, good sir. A similar wish of luck to you too.
However, she recently admitted to me that...well, two days ago, she asked me, "Is it okay if I like you and [friend's name] both?" Then she started crying because she hurt my feelings, and she's apologized multiple times, plus my friend's taking another girl to the dance anyway, so I'm a lot less worried. I'm kinda confused, though...(Sorry if it looks like I'm trying to kinda derail this and turn it into a blog about every single relationship problem...)
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I sorta-kinda-maybe-have a date on Friday.
I mean, I can't prove she's into me, or that she's even single -- and really, it's just playing tennis for an hour before I go to work -- but I've only ever talked to her two or three times and she still seemed pretty psyched about it.
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Well, not only did it go well, but now I've got a phone number and a date to the Japanese Student Association dance in Downtown Seattle next Friday.
feelsgoodman.jpg
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Be sure to tape the corners of your eyes back so as to be less conscipuous.
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I'm still single
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Be sure to tape the corners of your eyes back so as to be less conscipuous.
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But yeah, in any case, having the surname White still gives me away.
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Well, not only did it go well, but now I've got a phone number and a date to the Japanese Student Association dance in Downtown Seattle next Friday.
Awesome. (http://pamelanred.hubpages.com/hub/Interracial-Relationships-Dos-and-Donts)
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Well, not only did it go well, but now I've got a phone number and a date to the Japanese Student Association dance in Downtown Seattle next Friday.
Best of luck, bro.
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****in' red-haired girls, man. They're gonna be the end of me.
Oh, and the dance was good too.
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red-haired girls
Pretty much
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[post deleted because it needed to immediately follow Turtlekid1's to make sense]
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I guess the quote button is too mainstream?
Also, you bet your sweet bippy I already had the first half of your last picture.
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Quoting is anathema to comedic zing.
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That feel when a girl rests her head on your shoulder while studying.
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I'd save both those pictures, but I already did on chanarchive a few days ago.
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How did chanarchive get footage of our faces as we read your post?
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That feel when a girl rests her head on your shoulder while studying.
Typical girl making you do the work for her.
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3DPD
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Hand-holding level = achieved
The whole thing is making me even more self-aware of my own... conflicted thoughts at times, though. I could have me a good girl, and still be addicted to them hood rats...
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I'd save both those pictures, but I already did on chanarchive a few days ago.
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I thought ShadowBrian was vehemently opposed to hand-holding.
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I'm more opposed to the carefully orchestrated sense of deja vu I'm getting in this thread right now.
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I don't always have my first kiss, but when I do, I post about it on a Mario message board seven hours later.
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You are no longer one of us. Begone.
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Am I double-begone for her being my girlfriend now?
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...Did somebody just say something?
Nah, must have just been the wind... OF BETRAYAL
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I'm detecting large quantities of jelly in this thread.
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I'd have to see a picture of her nose first.
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I don't always have my first kiss, but when I do, I post about it on a Mario message board seven hours later.
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http://www.newcave.com/game/pretentious-game reminded me of this thread for some reason.
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I expected that was going to be some kind of ****-take of "pretentious gaming" but it was actually a nice little thing. The best part was that the music ended perfectly when I beat the game. I think it was just a coincidence, but it was still awesome.
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I'm detecting large quantities of jelly in this thread.
Of the KY variety?
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Shadowbrian no offense but it reads like you're wearing your girlfriend as a badge of status. Like you got one for the sake of having one.
Or was that obvious and no one was saying it because it was funny?
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Wait, people get girlfriends for reasons besides that?
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Shadowbrian no offense but it reads like you're wearing your girlfriend as a badge of status.
My assumption was just that he was really happy to have a girlfriend, and wanted to tell whoever would listen, using different words than just "HEY GUYS GUESS WHAT I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND".
But... well I guess I should just let him answer for himself.
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Yeah, I just wanted to update y'all in the relevant thread, by way of my usual combination of meme references and self-aware shallowness.
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Also, five minutes after I told my friend, his friend made this (completely true) image. TEM, I once again indirectly blame you.
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Similar to what Luigison linked: i saw her standing there (http://www.kongregate.com/games/krangGAMES/i-saw-her-standing-there)
Mega easy, but nice music
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Wait, people get girlfriends for reasons besides that?
*walks in*
To talk about their feelings to?~ o3o
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REAL MEN DON'T HAVE FEELINGS
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Whenever I talked to my ex about my feelings all she ever did was ***** about she had to "play therapist" >:\
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Should've told her you were going to "play the rapist".
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you're funny
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That's why we keep him around!
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Yeah, I'm pretty much TMK's relationship guru.
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Accurate.
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Whenever I talked to my ex about my feelings all she ever did was ***** about she had to "play therapist" >:\
At least she did it for free.
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except she was a hooker
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I hate all of you
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Quit being a victim, dude. Granted she's your ex now but the fact that you stuck around long enough to let her say stuff like that to you more than once makes you part of the problem.
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But she's most of the problem for being a ****.
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Yeah, the knowledge of when to drop relationships only comes with first-hand experience. I don't think there's ever been a guy that's gone into a relationship and known right out of the gate exactly how to handle everything.
My ex certainly didn't help. She had me on her hook for the longest time, and even after she broke up with me, it took me months to realize I had to cut her out of my life completely. Not everyone understands how they should handle things in the moment.
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Yeah, it's one of those things where you live and learn. My ex basically used me and my wallet as a rebound from her ex, and got back with him within two days of me breaking up with her. I'd found out later she'd cheated on me when we were still together. But ultimately, though I felt guilty at first, you know you've made the right decision, and you get better at picking things in time when you know they're not working.
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I need an OkCupid username to stalk local girls with. I'm leaning toward 'SpergLord9000', but I'm open to suggestions.
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CreepyQuietKidFrom6thGrade
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*****, I was getting detentions for being a loudmouthed smart-Alec on a weekly basis in middle school. Besides, there's a 15-character limit.
EDIT: I settled on AnnoyingFat[badonkadonk]. It's only a matter of time before the *****es are all over me. Here's my winning personality trait graph:
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Friendzone'd.
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Wait, by the girl you were almost certainly going out with?
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Well, yes, and we were going out for almost two months, so maybe I used the wrong word. In any case, it's actually relatively mutual.
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the girl I was crushing on while internally debating whether she was too young for me already has a boyfriend (who happens to be a year older than me).
Funny story: At the time I wrote this, there were two girls I was crushing on around the same time, both of whom had recently turned or were about to turn 18. While wondering if 17.9 was too young for a 21.7-year-old to date, I then found out, both around the same time, that both of them were dating guys named Andrew who were born the same year as me (several months earlier, making both of them close to a year older than me).
And a month or two ago -- again, both around the same time -- I found out that both couples are still together and are engaged.
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[darn]ed Andrews.
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Theory confirmed: getting friendzoned via text is quicker and less awkward, but feel no less dukary.
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The trick is to go *past* the friendzone. Become such great friends that a relationship is inevitable.
I don't know if this is actually good advice. It's worked for me in two out of two relationships, but those could just be special cases.
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Well, what I mean is, the phrase "my boyfriend" was used in a response. Indirect friendzoning for the time being.
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Sexy English teachers: 2, ShadowBrain: 0
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What, did she give you an F on an assignment?
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I think you mean "[badonkadonk]ignment."
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Ha.
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She has red hair. :3
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The grandest of all hair.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incel
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obesity
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Hereby requesting a new "Best Reply" subcategory for the 2013 awards.
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Are you complaining about being "incel" for six months?
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Eight months.
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On the Fungi Forums.
What's your next trick? Complaining about Arby's prices at the soup kitchen?
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I consider myself subtle, but I'm still just impressed that you extrapolated "complaining" from copypasting a URL.
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H-happy Valentine's Day, everyone... ;~;
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Sweet! That means tomorrow is Go to Every Store I Know of and Buy a Ton of Half Priced Candy Day! I hope there will still be some left by the time I leave work, though.
For what it's worth I met the person I've been seeing for over 5 years now as a direct result of a link posted on this forum. I guess the moral is that if you want to find someone to start dating, stay on the internet forever and keep following links until one of them leads to something.
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It wasn't this one, was it?
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[darn], I don't even remember posting that.
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Happy Just Another Thursday Day. 9_9
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This is now a bawww thread. Check out The Official Love&Darkness Playlist (http://notesandsketches.wordpress.com/2013/02/14/shuffle-mode-official-lovedarkness-playlist/)!
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It's national Half Price Chocolate Day though, so that's what you can have for anyone who's single.
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I went to three stores today after work and there was nothing good left at any of them. :(
first world problems YEA
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My Sears had giant heart-shaped boxes of Russell Stovers selling for $30 leading up to Valentine's.
And today they were still $30.
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Hypergamy!
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Why would people date fish? That inter-species thing is just weird.
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Re: Hypergamy.gif
People who consider physical attractiveness to be the most important factor in relationships and who are not themselves conventionally physically attractive should not be surprised when they have a very hard time finding relationships.
And if a "beta guy" who considers himself entitled to a "beta girl" can't seem to "get" one, and finds himself asking her "Why don't you want to date me? You're almost as ugly as me!" maybe the answer is
A: She doesn't owe him anything
B: She knows that there are other guys who are more attractive than him OR who care about more than just attractiveness [and won't insult her appearance or make her feel like they're doing her a favor by dating an uggo] OR maybe even both, so why settle for neither? What does she get out of it?
(C: Also she might be a lesbian)
(D: Also also, even operating within the assumptions of the hierarchy of attractiveness, a likely scenario is that the "beta guy" has overestimated his own attractiveness and underestimated the girl's, due to the unrealistic standards the media has trained him to expect, and he and she are actually not on the same attractiveness level.)
That image is implying that the basis of a relationship between two average-looking people should be "Eh, I'm not hot enough to do better than him/her, so I guess I can't complain." That is a pretty horrible thing to base a relationship on.
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People care about looks more than we'd like to think. It seems most young people have had casual sex nowadays, save for the beta guys who will have to settle for relationships with formerly promiscuous women.
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People care about looks more than we'd like to think. It seems most young people have had casual sex nowadays, save for the beta guys who will have to settle for relationships with formerly promiscuous women.
...formerly? They won't stop being promiscuous, they just won't be with him, that's all.
Generally it's found that people tend to eventually wind up with those at about their own attractiveness level on average anyways. I mean, you may deviate in one way or another in casual encounters, but as for relationships you tend to wind up with someone at about your level even if you're not trying for that to be.
Then of course there's the issue of "surplus males" in certain places which I think may turn out to be a much bigger problem than one would expect because of reasons that are more for the sub-forum people don't eat at. It actually makes more sense from a reproduction/survival standpoint for an individual to have a higher than 50% chance of being female but that's for yet another discussion. (I actually have read somewhere that the crappy diets we're eating nowadays are actually tricking the survival instincts of our body into thinking we're in a disaster mode, and when this happens children are actually slightly more likely to be female than usual. Conversely, if people are healthy that instinct assumes that nature is being kind and slightly more males tend to be born. Not sure how much I buy it but it sort of makes sense. But I digress)
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Of the 23 women I've held some extended degree of attraction towards since moving to Seattle, I've confirmed 65% as unavailable for dating. You bet your ass I'm crunching numbers.
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Yeah, it astounds me how girls almost always seem to have a boyfriend. One has to wonder if there's a hidden surplus of slightly-better-than-us males in North America.
...formerly? They won't stop being promiscuous, they just won't be with him, that's all.
B-b-but that's slut-shaming! :OOOO
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Okay Weegee, we get it, you hate women.
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People care about looks more than we'd like to think. It seems most young people have had casual sex nowadays, save for the beta guys who will have to settle for relationships with formerly promiscuous women.
And the prize for the grumpiest internet virgin goes to...
I'm sorry, don't kill me! That joke just had to be said!
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_burn_centers_in_the_United_States
There's no equivalent for Canada whoops
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No, wait... make that 70%. "Unavailable for dating" encapsulates women that are "double" (dating someone else; I was tired of not knowing a shorter term), lesbians, engaged, or married. And my ex.
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And the prize for the grumpiest internet virgin goes to...
Excuse me, but I'm an all-day virgin, not just an internet one.
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"Unavailable for dating" also includes fictional characters.
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But that's wrong, CE.
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I like to believe that I'm a fairly socially competent person. I have friends in real life, I talk to people in person on a regular basis, I don't have any social anxiety or autism diagnoses... yet I have never gone on a date in my life.
At first I attributed this lack of action to being gay and not coming out until I was eighteen. However, as most TV shows have demonstrated, gay teenagers immediately meet their true love shortly after coming out, whom just happens to be the one other openly gay person at school. Unfortunately, this did not happen.
In a couple of weeks I'm moving into the heart of the gay-borhood so ideally I will have more opportunities to meet people. I've never been a "casual encounter" kind of person, so I'm not exactly sure what I'm expecting to happen. I feel like I'm going to go into a bar, and after five minutes of conversation they're just going to ask, "so can I put it in now?" Chances are I'm just internalizing the stereotypes regarding gay people, but all the gay friends I have sure love perpetuating the idea that sex is everything...
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I think that's partially because homosexuality is seen as immoral in many circles, so some might consider it redundant to be moral about gay relationships.
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EVERY TIME
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Looks like it's time to either officially abort or step up to the point of friendship-damaging "Operation Hey-I-Know-You're-Seeing-Someone-And-All-We-Do-Is-Just-Hang-Out-But-If-You-Ever-Break-Up-With-Him-Or-Want-To-Do-That-Soon-I'm-Up-For-It".
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Yeah don't do that.
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Yeah, definitely don't do that.
Patience.
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Even with all my relationship experience, I know that's a bad idea. It's basically admitting you're hanging out with her in hopes of a relationship.
Also,
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I can assure you I have never seen a case where that happened and the girl was anything other than offput and offended. So don't do that.
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Huh. Well, that was easy. Of course, we've also been hanging out because we have more common interests than half of my male friends, but whatever.
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Chances are she sees you like this:
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That girl has an awfully broad definition of the word "friend".
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Heheh, you said "broad."
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I made out a bunch with a drunk, shorthaired, feminist English major/semifamous YouTube vlogger at a party last night AND IT WAS AWESOME.
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Normal[bundle of sticks].
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YouTube name?
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Pics or it didn't happen!
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All you need to know is that it did indeed happen.
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TylerOakley??
I lost my virginity on Saturday night. I'm glad to have had the sexual experience, and yet I feel that it was so entirely out of character for me to engage in drunken sex with a friend. We agreed the next morning that what happened could either stand on its own or be a building block toward something else. I don't want it to build to something else. He's ten years older than me and has a lot more experience, while I have never dated or been in a relationship before: therefore he would have a lot more power in the relationship and could easily manipulate me if he wanted. I know better than to willingly enter into such a relationship. I'll have to let him down easy very soon, as we're in the same Chorus together. Not fun.
On the bright side, apparently I'm well-endowed!
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Congrats, I suppose!
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That's...an interesting and awkward way to lose your virginity. Better than how I lost mine, I suppose. At least you're still friends with the guy, I flat out hate the girl I lost mine too.
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On the bright side, apparently I'm well-endowed!
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Yay, Weegee is dead! :D
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He died as he lived: shocked by someone else's genitals.
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There's a reason why your mom calls me Mr. Hands.
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Weegee stfu you're supposed to be dead.
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That's what Brian's mom said.
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>tfw my name is Brian
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I just want to know what exactly semifamous means. How many subscribers?
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4,000-odd. It's all relative.
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I think you mean, "It's all relatives".
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FRIENDZONED!
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Unless you're discussing an entirely different matter, I think you fail to see the point of the previous comic.
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(https://themushroomkingdom.net/board/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi0.kym-cdn.com%2Fphotos%2Fimages%2Fnewsfeed%2F000%2F534%2F882%2F1a6.jpg&hash=b92876170cdb33741521a0d39c05cf3e)
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Unless you're discussing an entirely different matter, I think you fail to see the point of the previous comic.
Different topic. I got friendzoned, by person who I talked about with the glasses.
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Girls don't get friendzoned, silly.
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I. AM. A. MAN.
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I'd make that my signature, but I don't want it to look like I'm compensating for something. Well, more than usual.
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What's the matter kid, you don't like having friends?
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Friends=good. Crush turned friend= WHY?
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(https://themushroomkingdom.net/board/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F25.media.tumblr.com%2Ftumblr_lu4wj1bdLY1qbpwzeo1_500.gif&hash=da35275ef57f8a3e24a3ea9cf38e0c4b)
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Friends=good. Crush turned friend= WHY?
Because they're just like any other friend in that they might not be attracted to you?
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It's soul-crushing. You can't blame him for not wanting to hang around with her anymore.
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Friendzoned: because "consolation prize" is exactly what her friendship is going to feel like if that's just happened.
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It's soul-crushing. You can't blame him for not wanting to hang around with her anymore.
And it's not hurtful to her that he wants to end their friendship just because she doesn't want to be intimate with him?
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I have no intentions of ending our friendship, guys.
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Good, so you're not just a lousy Nice Guy™.
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Wouldn't it be worse if someone wanted to end a friendship and then didn't? Their relationship would become a dishonest charade. Even though it may be shallow to stop hanging out with someone because they turn you down, at least the person bailing out is being straightforward about their motives.
Not that this is referring to IAH's situation; this has reached Level Hypothetical.
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You got me there, I just think it's a stupid reason not to be someone's friend. Can't force a person to feel a different way, I guess.
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It's usually that you develop feelings for them, not that you only befriended them in hopes of dating them.
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IMHO if you are friendzoned and don't speak up about your lust/attraction/affection/love then you are rightfully friendzoned whether you are male or female. You can't just expect the other person to make the first move in fear of being let down or friendzoned and then be upset about it. Declare your intentions. Then you will either be well rewarded or have a right to be upset.
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It's usually that you develop feelings for them, not that you only befriended them in hopes of dating them.
I don't recall saying such a distinction mattered (although the latter is a truly retarded reason for being someone's friend). If you develop feelings for them and they're not returned, fine, take a step back to heal if you have to. But don't just flat out stop being their friend forever. The feelings of the other person do matter (surprising, right?) even if they only go so far as friendship. Learn to let [dukar] go, Jesus.
Then you will either be well rewarded or have a right to be upset.
And whatever you do don't be upset at them. It's not their fault they're not attracted to you.
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how do i grils
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hav patients
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And whatever you do don't be upset at them. It's not their fault they're not attracted to you.
Yes. I meant that your feelings would be justified, not that you'd have the right to take it out on them. Thanks for the clarification.
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My crush is now dating my bi (formerly gay) friend. I is sad.
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Just move on and find someone else. It's all you can do.
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Yeah. I'll do that. Eventually. I've moved on already.
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Good, good. No use waiting around for something that obviously won't happen.
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Could it be that your formerly gay friend is using your crush as his beard?
I've started dating a guy in his late 30s. We don't quite pass the Standard Creepiness Rule (Age/2 + 7). So far our dates have consisted of dinner/movies, and cuddle-sleepovers. I'm trying not to fall for him too quickly until I know him better. In the meantime I'm enjoying his company.
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^
I was about to ask the same thing, but I thought I might come off as rude for questioning their sexuality. If someone says they're bisexual, gay, or otherwise, I typically take their word for it. *shrugs*
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I was seeing this guy for about a month. Lately I realized that I'm not ready to pursue a serious relationship with him because I don't feel confident with where I'm at in my life. The guy asked me on Monday where we stood, and I was honest with him. He broke down and was kind of a wreck, crying and not wanting to hear me say any of it. It was rather troubling, considering it was my first break-up.
He called me like three times the next day, and admitted to me that he's been very depressed (nearly suicidal) for the past six months, and that his time with me was one of the only things making him happy. That bothered me because it made certain that he was dependent on me for happiness, rather than interdependent. I'd rather someone is with me by choice, not out of necessity.
Thankfully, he has scheduled an appointment to see a psychiatrist. He used to be on medication and never renewed his prescription, which is why he has probably been so depressed for all these months.
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Who shall follow in this man's footsteps?
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(https://themushroomkingdom.net/board/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fthemushroomkingdom.net%2Fboard%2Findex.php%3Faction%3Ddlattach%3Btopic%3D14371.0%3Battach%3D7814&hash=0da7eb87e87f7eb6660a81de059c04e3)
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...Try clicking on the image.
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Or don't. It's not really worth it!
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Of course not Turtlekid. Well, at least not for you. I mean, the guy said you could fap.
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I could have sworn this thread was posted in more recently than June.
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Geek girlfriend: feelsgoodman
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I feel... betrayed.
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>girls I know either would never like me or are clearly not faithful in a relationship at all
>taste in guys is too picky, and almost all the guys I know are either straight or too old for me even if they weren't
I don't know what to do. Some people don't need to be in relationships to be happy...but I need that kind of intimacy, and it's been too long.
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It's a lot of patient waiting for some people. I know it sucks to hear that but if you spend your time worrying about it you'll only be making it more difficult to find a partner. People pick up on potential mates' attitude, like how they carry themselves when they're not in a relationship. You really think they're going to want to date you if you say stuff like that irl?
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDYFqQZEdRA
~
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Got dumped over break by a girl who's never had a boyfriend again. So how was *your* holiday season?
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Who's never had a boyfriend again? What?
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(https://themushroomkingdom.net/board/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FQmCJS2q.jpg&hash=7a0a7c255bd3831710e8e5f057da05c1)
Take solace in the fact that you had someone to dump you. (And that she properly dumped you instead of ignoring you for a few days and then saying bad things about you to your friend.)
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So would any reply in the next couple weeks noting that my girlfriend and I have been together for a year now be in poor taste?
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Take solace in the fact that you had someone to dump you.
That's... a hell of a thing to take solace in, man.
So would any reply in the next couple weeks noting that my girlfriend and I have been together for a year now be in poor taste?
I think anyone who is too bitter to be happy for someone who's in a functional relationship doesn't deserve to be with anyone in the first place. If anything, it should be something to give people hope. Sort of like how people watch romantic comedies to try and validate their own desires. That or Ryan Gosling. But seriously, good job man.
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At this rate, Thor and I are bound to be the only wizards on TMK.
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/me coughs
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At this rate, Thor and I are bound to be the only wizard on TMK.
Thor's only 15 though so there's still plenty of time. I didn't lose my chance to become a wizard until I was 22, so don't lose hope fella.
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I had to double-check Urban Dictionary for what "wizard" meant in this context. You hear a new one every day, I guess?
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The (main) group of people I'm a part of, whose ages range from the mid teens to early twenties, are mostly virgins, which is understandable since we're all young and mostly total dorks. I am the only one out of them, however, to have been single for over a year and a half now, and thinking about that makes me feel bad and also very lonely.
[!!!DANGER ZONE!!! Whining about my only attempt at a relationship warning. If you actually want to read the story of something that's probably my fault for staying with her, you can try.] I've also been remembering lately how badly my ex treated me in retrospect, and how that's negatively effected my views on relationships, and intimacy, and that kind of stuff. I never told you guys that story, did I? Basically, I stayed with her even after she told me she was into my friend, because she started crying and stuff so I figured that meant she cared about me, and when I brought it up she told me not to worry about it. And then she started being mean to me while at the same time being super nice and friendly to said friend in front of me, and immediately afterwards she ignored and avoided me for days instead of actually dumping me, and then talking bad about me to my friend, who showed me a screencap. She then told me that it's over after I confronted her about that. Nowadays, I'm afraid that I'll be much too possessive in future relationships because I'm really afraid of something like this happening to me again, especially since my best friend happens to be taller, stronger, and more well known (and well liked) than I am. When I hear about cheating, or a suggestion of a girl being "stolen" by someone "better" or whatever, I get this really, really enraged and sickened feeling (although that might be normal). At least my friend was a total bro about the whole thing and told her off immediately after she finally dumped me.[/DANGER ZONE]
Sorry about all that stupid teenage drama stuff, and I'm honestly a total chump for staying with her after she admitted she liked my friend even after she started crying. But, uh, yeah, that's the only time I've ever experienced >tfw gf so far.
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Still, even though you feel foolish in retrospect, you are still leagues more mature for recognizing that you were being mistreated, while she probably still has no remorse at all. You also have the advantage of knowing how awful a toxic relationship like that can be. And whatever feminist theory or longstanding tradition says that women are more mature then men, I especially don't buy it for girls that age. When it gets to be about time to head to college (in terms of age, whether or not you actually go to college), you'll find that - while girls like that are still too common - there will be more ladies who are a lot more level-headed.
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It actually took me quite some time to realize that she was mistreating me. I felt like the whole thing was my fault for being less "desirable" and overall sociable than my friend. Since what happened with me, he's been in three (possibly four) relationships, all of which were at least decent until he was sad about being dumped.
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I had to double-check Urban Dictionary for what "wizard" meant in this context. You hear a new one every day, I guess?
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I feel like there's some deja vu happening here.
Also, I'm on the same track too.
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[picture]
Is that the Japan-amay I don't know too much about there?
It actually took me quite some time to realize that she was mistreating me. I felt like the whole thing was my fault for being less "desirable" and overall sociable than my friend. Since what happened with me, he's been in three (possibly four) relationships, all of which were at least decent until he was sad about being dumped.
Yeah, that's the other reason not to be in a rush. Even when the lady in question is a decent, charming individual she just might not be right. You gotta be sure, or bad feelings will still happen at the other end of the tunnel.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LPme2gSE46U
If you ever feel beta...remember you're not this guy. Poor dude...
(Wasn't sure whether or not to post this in You Feel, You Lose)
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I was no fooling on my way here to post that. There is a sequel!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxlXxAM9N1w
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Those abbreviations, Jesus...
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"gtg" always sounded to me like the noise you'd make if someone suddenly started choking you from behind.
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Dare I ask what "brb" sounds like?
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Brib or beerb?
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Not to Brian's sick mind.
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Drowning?
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Like you just got rubber bands on your braces and tried to say "suburbs".
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And I'm sure all these fine ladies make 60K themselves, right? (http://www.couriermail.com.au/news/queensland/man-drought-sees-shortage-of-eligible-men-as-women-struggle-in-dating-game/story-fnihsrf2-1226804921893)
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Guys I am in deep love with the crush I mentioned long ago, and now she has a boyfriend
Pls help
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That's ok, my current crush just told me she has a boyfriend too. I saw we go have a nice cold pint.
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I must apologize, I'm underage. Thanks for the offer, though!
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Pint of chocolate milk.
And tears.
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It doesn't matter. I don't actually drink. :P
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mZIfop04DWM
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I've never watched Young Turks... do they always make that big of a dork of themselves?
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That's kind of a vague statement but I think I get what you mean. I watch them regularly and Cenk (the guy) has a habit of making really lame or forced jokes at the expense of the story's subject. Sometimes it's extremely cringy, like how he tried to mimic a Japanese guy in that video. I still prefer him over about 95% of news personalities because when he wants to be serious he is dead serious, but other times I definitely wish he'd just stop.
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I didn't used to mind them, but find they've gotten too... tumblry in recent years.
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"Tumblry" is definitely gonna be my go-to adjective for the English and Gender Studies departments at my school. And most of the student population, of course.
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I'm more partial to "Tumblresque" myself.
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Sounds like UW to me.
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Gender studies students made Tumblr what it is so I think you're putting the cart before the horse by describing them as "Tumblry." But I get what you mean. Most gender studies majors use Tumblr because the way it's formatted is ideal for spreading their ideas and theories.
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That is, it's difficult to leave critical comments because questions are lost amidst the hundreds of reblogs.
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Pretty much, yeah. Although to be fair I find it hard to disagree with some of the points they're making. It's just difficult to discern between the "attention seeking" posts, e.g., "I identify as a queer non-binary lesbian transman and if you're a cisgendered white male you need to check your privileged or gtfo" (an obvious straw man, but I've seen some [dukar], man), and the ones that are genuinely trying to draw attention to a legitimate problem in society because you can't really access original posts directly and you can't check to see if anyone has cited their sources.
4chan is basically the same for males though and it's not like anything worthwhile gets posted there.
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Two of my friends that I've known for a while (and the guy is one of my best friends, the girl would be if I talked to her more) broke up, and I'm kind of bummed out about it. I liked that they were together for so long because it was a way of reassuring me that maybe I could find that someday. And look how it turned out. The breakup was for the better, though.
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Sounds like the relationship just wasn't working for them, which can always happen. That's no reason to think you won't find a strong bond with someone; your relationships will last by the strength, will, and dedication of your partner and yourself. Like you said about your friends' relationship ending, it was for the better.
I remember Louis C.K. saying something similar about marriage: "Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it’s true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce … That would be sad. If two people were married and they were really and they just had a great thing and then they got divorced, that would be really sad. But that has happened zero times."
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Pretty much, yeah. Although to be fair I find it hard to disagree with some of the points they're making. It's just difficult to discern between the "attention seeking" posts, e.g., "I identify as a queer non-binary lesbian transman and if you're a cisgendered white male you need to check your privileged or gtfo" (an obvious straw man, but I've seen some [dukar], man), and the ones that are genuinely trying to draw attention to a legitimate problem in society because you can't really access original posts directly and you can't check to see if anyone has cited their sources.
4chan is basically the same for males though and it's not like anything worthwhile gets posted there.
All of this. Privileged or not, there's some loud jerks in any faction.
Also, my condolences on the breakup-adjacent, Thor. I had a similar moment when my best friend's girlfriend of three years dumped him...
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They got back together last night. Teenagers are weird.
But I feel like their relationship has been unhealthy lately, so time'll tell if it'll last. I hope it does. She happens to have really low self esteem and was afraid that he hated her or something. In actuality, he just doesn't want to put up with all the constant arguments and problems. I hope they can learn from last time and do better this time.
Also...apparently this girl that I was mad crazy over for a few months last year? She's actually had a boyfriend for a long time now and she never told anybody. Even me...which is pretty stupid, since she knew I had feelings for her.
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Even me...which is pretty stupid, since she knew I had feelings for her.
Teenagers are weird.