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General Chat / Re: Relationdukars
« on: March 21, 2013, 11:12:19 AM »
I like to believe that I'm a fairly socially competent person.  I have friends in real life, I talk to people in person on a regular basis, I don't have any social anxiety or autism diagnoses... yet I have never gone on a date in my life.

At first I attributed this lack of action to being gay and not coming out until I was eighteen.  However, as most TV shows have demonstrated, gay teenagers immediately meet their true love shortly after coming out, whom just happens to be the one other openly gay person at school.  Unfortunately, this did not happen.

In a couple of weeks I'm moving into the heart of the gay-borhood so ideally I will have more opportunities to meet people.  I've never been a "casual encounter" kind of person, so I'm not exactly sure what I'm expecting to happen.  I feel like I'm going to go into a bar, and after five minutes of conversation they're just going to ask, "so can I put it in now?"  Chances are I'm just internalizing the stereotypes regarding gay people, but all the gay friends I have sure love perpetuating the idea that sex is everything...

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General Chat / Re: The AMBIVALENT Thread: Have Mixed Feelings Here!
« on: March 10, 2013, 09:15:59 PM »
If only staying put was even worse.  Maybe that's why I like going for walks: I live with my brother in his dingy apartment, and walks are an escape from that physical space (and also provide thinking time free from distraction).

I'm moving to the city in the beginning of April.  I'm simultaneously excited and nervous.
Pros:
-I'll be in the gayborhood, with plenty more opportunities to meet gay people.
-I'll have my own bed, which I will keep clean (unlike my brother's couch, where I currently sleep).
-I won't have to commute two hours via bicycle and train to rehearsal and work (assuming I can transfer jobs)
-Sleep will be uninterrupted!
-I'll have the space to paint again.
Cons:
-I'm trying to transfer job locations, which might not work.  If not, I have to find another job.
-The rent is my paycheck.
-Despite all the benefits of moving, I feel like it won't solve my "what-are-you-doing-with-your-life" problem.  Maybe having more friends in their 20s will make me feel better about being a barista?

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: Sexual Orientation
« on: March 06, 2013, 11:26:52 AM »
I've heard of Kinsey shifts like that, where it's only by a few points and does not exclude the original sex/gender that was found attractive.  I think bisexuality is largely misunderstood in our society as a phase, a bout of indecision, or as a stance of equal preference between men and women.  While I'm entirely gay, I've had multiple bi friends who have been doubted or rejected by gay and straight friends alike for their sexual identity, just because it doesn't lie neatly at one end of the spectrum.

Regarding last names, I have a strange Eastern European last name that doesn't sound particularly cool or fancy.  However, spelled backwards you get a Persian first name.  My wish is to give my son this name so that his full name is a palindrome.  It's kind of the only reason I would want children.  I have my priorities in order, don't I?

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: Sexual Orientation
« on: March 04, 2013, 02:43:43 PM »
This is the second time I've heard the "half of everybody in the country is gay" statistic. I'd like to not hear it again without some credible sources.

Here's a credible source regarding LGBT demographics.  The nationwide average is only 3.5%.

From what to what, I.S.?  I only know of my bisexual friends whose orientations tend to oscillate (at different magnitudes) between men and women.  I have one friend who's currently in a same-sex relationship with a guy, his second guy relationship, who had only dated women through high school.  He argues that his predominant attraction to men does not cancel out his previous, genuine attraction to women.

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I lose.  I thought I was the token gay of this forum!  Now I feel obliged to step out so as not to overwhelm this crowd with our collective gayness.  You know, kinda like this (language warning):
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWhhPWyWCv0" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWhhPWyWCv0</a>

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Forum Games / Re: Movie Game
« on: February 21, 2013, 09:52:16 PM »
Is WarpRattler even still around to remember the answer?  Can there be a rule where after two months someone else can go?

Also, I think the bladder obstruction movie could be Dreamcatcher.

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General Chat / Re: Polyphasic sleep
« on: February 21, 2013, 09:47:39 PM »
I'm the type of person that goes to bed between nine and midnight and usually wakes up automatically around seven.  I've had skin problems and irregular sleep makes me break out, so I can't stand staying up really late.  I'm lucky to be on the west coast, because we can post simultaneously and I can avoid staying awake in the wee hours of the morning.

I also cannot really go to sleep on command.  If I take a nap during the day then I will probably have trouble falling asleep that night.  What has helped me the most with falling asleep more quickly is to do a breathing exercise that allows you to relax and forces your mind to focus on counting: inhale for four, hold for seven, exhale for eight.  And earplugs.  I also work at 5:30 on most mornings, so I have to get up at 4:15 to shower and eat before riding my bike to work.  Doing that makes me tired enough by nightfall.

Also, this topic keeps reminding me of this:

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If going to bed is the best part of your day because your stuffed animal is your best friend, then I feel sorry for how the rest of your day must be like.

If anything it just seems like an infantile habit, like Linus and his blanket.  Also who still knows anybody named Octavia?

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: Sexual Orientation
« on: February 14, 2013, 12:03:00 PM »
I scored 0 Heterosexuality (1st percentile), 66 Homosexuality(90th percentile), and 27 Asexuality(36th percentile)!

Man you people are straight.   ...er.

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: Sexual Orientation
« on: February 09, 2013, 10:52:59 PM »
They're leaving out the word to avoid offending transgender people?  That doesn't make sense: there was once an infamous performance of the show where all the actresses were transsexual women.  People have the right to be offended by the show, but altering the content to appease to critics seems pointless.

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: Sexual Orientation
« on: February 08, 2013, 11:16:12 PM »
(Also, cancerous breasts are so much sexier than cancerous prostates.)

Speak for yourself!

Has anyone else seen The Vagina Monologues?  That's where I first heard the term "cootie-snorcher."  It's actually really funny and enjoyable for women and non-women.  I've constantly heard people criticize the show by saying that it uses its shock factor to get attention, but I think that just demonstrates how simply mentioning female genitalia is automatically considered shocking and indecorous.  The only monologues that are ...not-Sapph-endorsed would be:
  • Reclaim: about women taking back the c-word.
  • The one about the different moans women make during sex
  • My Angry Vagina: just a lot of swearing
I'm pretty sure you can watch individual monologues from the show on Youtube, if you just search for the names of each monologue.  It's totally worth seeing at least once.  After three times the fake orgasms get old and you get tired of hearing audience members think they're clever by saying "Let's do the Penis Soliloquys next!  Aren't I original and upbeat?"  While I would like to see a show where men talk earnestly about their penises (for innocent not-gay reasons), the fact that there isn't a male version is because men have the privilege of being overt with their sexual prowess or experience.  So there's no need to have a show about it.

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: Sexual Orientation
« on: February 08, 2013, 09:09:05 PM »
Va-jay-jay?  Vag?  Cootie-snorcher?

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: Sexual Orientation
« on: February 05, 2013, 11:07:39 PM »
The article said that the models were all transgender, which doesn't exclude individuals who have had gender reassignment surgery.  But yeah, they all were likely born with penises.  Peni?  Penae?

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: Sexual Orientation
« on: February 05, 2013, 01:36:59 PM »
Change of subject: Even though gender identity is different from sexual orientation, I feel like this may fit the best in this thread: A First Lingerie Line for Transgendered Women

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: Sexual Orientation
« on: February 03, 2013, 07:10:46 PM »
Ooh la la!  How exactly can "one" structure a sentence so that a preposition isn't what it ends with? ;)  So suggestive!

Maybe it's because the only other message board I frequent regards the topic of sexuality, but I don't think your post read as suggestive or awkward.  Being able to speak candidly about one's romantic/(a)sexual desires permits others to do the same.

Personally, I feel really weird to be a 22-year-old virgin, in part because of the societal pressures "to which" Insane Steve "referred."  I'm fairly socially awkward (hence my presence on an internet message board) but I attribute my lack of action to having come out only four years ago, at a smaller college with a meager gay male population.  Thankfully I'm close to San Francisco now and I'm in a chorus with 300 other gay men, and while I don't anticipate doing anybody (which is actually discouraged within the group), I think it's constructive for my sexual identity to be around men with the same orientation.  I have a "big brother" in the chorus who's 51 years old with a partner of 25 years, and the normalcy of his life experiences certainly makes it seem a lot less implausible/dramatic that I will meet/date someone.

So yeah, I guess if I were to give out advice based on my own experiences so far, it's merely to find a group of people with similar identities within which you can openly embrace those aspects of yourself.  Pun intended? (is "embracing" romantic?)

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