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General Chat / Re: Ultimate Birthday Compilation

« on: July 08, 2006, 09:46:48 AM »

You should go to Las Vegas on that date. XD

I feel sorry for anyone who had theirs on 6-6-06, if they felt afraid from all of the excitement. *feels sick and tired of people taking numbers way too seriously and trying to figure out when the world will end, if it will (even though the Bible says that day will be unknown to everyone)* My birthday is on Mayteenth!

Happy birthday, Kojinka!

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: July 04, 2006, 10:25:45 AM »

Truth Is Everywhere

Something new I learned recently is that you can find truth in anything, even from things, people, and religions that you disagree with.  Truth is not limited to one particular area but anyone can speak or live truth no matter who they are.  It's out job to sort through everything we come across and decide whether or not it's true and we can trust it completely.  And also, that we should never believe everything that we hear but continue to ask questions, be truly honest with ourselves, and listen closely.  If you look for truth then you will find it.

Happy 4th of July!

Edit: Heh.  I like how Lizard Dude sounded like something out of a self-help book.

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Site Discussion / Re: TMK Grand Event

« on: June 27, 2006, 06:25:53 PM »

MAMA MIA!!  I'M-A SO JEALOUS!

That looked like so much fun! *wishes he could think of a better word than fun*  How did you guys plan all of that?  Do you live close together?  Can I come over some time too?  I'll bring chips! XD  How many people at TMK have you met now?  Glad you guys could meet each other.  I think the sculpture looks like a metal mobile home with giant wheels. (And I noticed that my name would have fit on the Scrabble board if you used a space!)

Man, I just gotta meet someone who goes to this website!  Someone who doesn't mind how boring I am, ya know. (Someone who is a bookworm like me)

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: June 27, 2006, 06:16:30 PM »

I'm not frustrated, I guess I'm just tired of explaining myself (or not being able to say what I'm trying to say).  No offense to anyone.  I need to be more careful with what I say.  And, fuzzy, you might not want to say "freakin'" because some people could become offended.  Adjectives can be dangerous! XD

(I responded so fast because I was thinking of changing what I said but then just decided to say why here)

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General Chat / Re: The HOPEFUL thread: Be happy here!

« on: June 27, 2006, 04:10:59 PM »

The Chef: You had both Taco Bell and KFC for lunch?  I guess you can eat more than I can!

I'm happy because I'm switching from doctor's medication to treatments from a chiropractor that incluede back adjustments, special shoe soles for my flat feet, gross cod liver oil, and some other liquid that doesn't taste bad.  It's kind of expensive stuff but I'm going to go with it and see if it helps any.  Hopefully these things can make me healthier and save money on some prescriptions.

I do take a few doctor medications but they're for minor things (like my thyroid and acne problems).  Oh yeah, and I learned that chiropractors are more than back doctors; they're spinal cord doctors and you're spinal cord affects your entire body!

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: June 27, 2006, 03:58:06 PM »

*rests head on desk and sighs* Yes, it may not be completely correct and it may not apply to all women.  It's simply a few suggestions of things to try if they are true.  People can test them out and see if they are right, and if they aren't then they don't have to do them.  I believe you, Chup, and I somewhat agree with Markio about truly loving someone without needing outside help (do you have a girlfriend, btw?).  Okay, now I'll try to stop defending myself for now.

Who's Maddox?

Down The End of the Road

Speaking of life, I am learning to keep thinking about the end of life because we all know that life is short.  If you can remember that every day, then you may start to look at it differently.  We all know this but it can be hard to remember it.  And you never know when other people will die too so we have to treat everyone with that in mind.

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: June 26, 2006, 02:32:29 PM »

TEM: I'm not saying that this book has women completely figured out, and the book doesn't say that either.  It's just seven big theories about women that appear to be backed up by research, many comments, and a national survey.  I bet there's lots of things that men and women will never understand about each other.  And this stuff may seem obvious but the book dives in deeper and has much more to say about things.  I just want to help guys out if some of it is true.  We must do whatever we can to try and understand the complicated mystery that is the female mind!

Suffix: Guh!  Sorry that happened to you.  I'm just glad it wasn't the "end" of your computer. *rimshot* Hey, I can see your foot in the picture!

SSM: I think that giving is a wonderful feeling even if you don't get anything back too.  Why is it so hard to give then?

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: June 25, 2006, 07:05:50 PM »

Okay, I think we all need to stop picking on each other.  Fuzzy, friends can get along and still disagree once in awhile.  The goal is unity and not uniformity.  If they don't really care about your feelings you can try to be nice to them anyway and see if they become nicer (which I know can be pretty tough).  If they don't then I think you might want to just stay away from them.  I hope it gets better.

CW: Do you mean I'm lying or that the books have lies in them?  If you meant me, I wasn't lying about anything (unless I said something untrue by accident).  I wouldn't be surprised if there's lots of books full of lies, but would all of them.

And now to show you what I promised!  You can tell me what you think, whether or not it sounds right, and if girls agree with anything that it says.  This comes from a quick little booklet inside the book that gives an overview to the book. 

Beginning to Understand Women

"For Men Only" Quick Start Guide


1. Reassurance
Why does she...?

• Ask do you love me even though you just said, "I love you" this morning?
  
• Take your need for space as a signal that you're upset with and trying to get away from her?
• Want to talk about your relationship... mostly at those times you least want to?

Here's why:

• Women have an underlying security about whether their man really loves them.
• When that latent insecurity is triggered, they are often preoccupied with getting the relationship back on track.

What to do:

• Reassure her that you love her.
• If you need space, say something that will ease her mind, like, "I need space right now, but I want you to know that we're okay."

2. Emotions
Why does she...?

• Out of nowhere, bring up something that happened two years ago?
  
• Seem to obsess about something better left alone?
• Get an idea in her head and fixate on it, even if you've already explained why it's no big deal?
  

Here's why:

• Women have involuntary emotional "pop-ups" that rise from the present or the past.
  
• Women often can't "compartmentalize" and just decide not to think about something that is bothering them.

What to do:

• Don't say, "Just don't think about it."  That may be physically and mentally impossible for most women.
  
• Help her "close those windows" by encouraging her to take whatever action is necessary to resolve her concern.

3. Security
Why does she...?

• Accuse you of "not caring about her," when you're working long hours to provide security for her and the kids?
• Say she doesn't feel close to you, when you two are married, and in the same house?
• Say she wants you around more, but also seems to to want the nice things that can only come if you have a higher-paying job?

Here's why:

• For a woman, "emotional security" and closeness are far more imporant that financial security.
  
• For a woman, security means you will always be there for her and closeness means you are best friends.

What to do:

• Realize that if she says she wants you around me, she's probably willing to downsize your lifestyle if it is necessary to make that happen.
• Since it's the little thigngs that build a sense of closeness, one example is to leave her a 30-second voice mail during the day just telling her how much you love her.
• Realize you don't have to stay in a job you dislike; your wife prefers you to be happy.

4. Listening
Why does she...?

• Say she doesn't want you to fix it, she just wants you to listen?  And what does that mean, anyway?
  
• Say "You're not listening!" when you've already been listening to her for half an hour?

Here's why:

• When she is sharing an emotional problem (as opposed to, say, "The car has a flat tire"), what is she feeling about the problem is actually more important to her than the problem itself.
• What she is feeling is actuall the "real problem."  Therefore, listening to her feelings solves the problem.

What to do:

• Instead of filtering out her emotions to focus on the problem, learn to filter out the problem in order to focus on her feelings.
• Only after you have acknowledged her feelings will she want to focus on a solution.

5. (Not exactly appropriate for this board, sorry)


6. Beauty
Why does she...?

• Ask "Do these pants make me look fat?"
• Ask, "How do I look?" then make you think you did something wrong when you tell her that she looks just fine?
• Get upset just because you noticed another attractive woman walking past--even though no man with a pulse could have done otherwise?

Here's why:

• A woman has a deep need to know that her husband or boyfriend finds her beautiful.
  When she asks you how she looks, she is not asking whether she's presentable for the party.  She wants to know that she still rocks your world.
• In this culture, where women subconsciouslly compare themselves with the other women in the mall and on television, your wife or girlfriend looks to you for cues on about whether she measures up in your eyes.

What to do:

• This one is a simple action with big impact: Tell her she's beautiful.  Regularly.
• Make sure your visual choices tell her she's the only woman for you.

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: June 24, 2006, 03:48:09 PM »

Oh no!  Bird Person is dying!  He needs help quick! *calls 911*

Fuzzy: Thanks for the links.  I might check those out later.  I am grateful for your concern for animals and that you want other people to feel like you, but it may not be possible to make some people believe what you do with force.  If you are more gentle about the subject, people are more likely to listen to you.  Just a little tip.

Markio: Yeah, that's definitely "post of the year" material!  I agree with you, but not entirely.  Men and women think differently from each and no matter how much you love your significan other, if you can't really understand each other then problems can happen.  Reading books about relationships won't hurt anything as long as you don't obsess over facts or do everything that everyone says.

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: June 23, 2006, 03:38:51 PM »

Fuzzy: I eat meat because I believe that God made animals to serve people and as food to eat, not for us to serve them (but not without restrait).  I don't want to offend you, because I can imagine how you feel about this.  I don't like cruelty to animals either.

Man, I have got to try that trick with the mentos! *gets up and goes running to the store* I'm glad this thread was good for something. >_>

Stay tuned for when I talk about a few little-known facts about women and some of the things they really want, from the book "For Men Only"!  If you think that this is a dumb joke or too good to be true... don't worry.  The authors did a lot of research on this topic and even had a national survey of women.  The facts may not be true for all women, but just give it a shot and tell me what you think.  It sounds right to me and I want guys to hear about this.

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Fan Creations / Re: Haiku

« on: June 20, 2006, 06:44:01 PM »

SMRPG
The best one in history
Yes it is, loser

Yoshisaurus Rex
I am Yoshisaurus Rex
Yoshisaurus Rex

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: June 20, 2006, 06:28:32 PM »

TEM: What?  Are you serious? Heh heh heh! >=D

Questions

I need to make an apology for something.  As you have probably noticed, I have been asking a lot of questions in threads like "A Survey This Is" and "I Don't Believe it!" while trying to answer as many as I can.  This alone probably isn't terrible but my intentions may have been.  While reading a new book *imagines people rolling their eyes* I learned that everything in life can be questioned and if you try to give people all of the answers or act like you know everything, then they might get irritated and you yourself can get frustrated and lose sight of the important stuff.

Questions can go on forever and it isn't terrible if you don't know all of the answers to everything.  Nevertheless, I believe that there are things in this world that are absolutes and we can stand on as truth.  "A truly wise (wo)man has more questions than (s)he does answers."

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: June 16, 2006, 11:34:12 PM »

Lol.  I wonder about that too. (Were Adam and Eve, if real, different colors?)  There's a great debate at other topics about whether or not all of Genesis is literal and I don't feel like talking about it here.  But others can if they want to.  Just get ready to enter a tunnel of questions that has no end!

Discrimination

Recently I'm learning how much I need to be friendly to all people and not just the ones who I like more.  I didn't really notice it at first but then I realized that I have a problem with treating people differently (depending on their looks or personality) and that's pretty awful.  So... I'm going to work on that because I want everyone to have a friend.  I'm sorry if I've been like that to any of you guys.

Hey, I got a custom title!  Yeah!  I never thought of myself as a bookworm but maybe I am (I need to read more books about other viewpoints though)  And I just realized that another reason I don't join the chat room is because I'm a slow thinker and have to keep editing posts and saying new things.  Not just IRClueless.

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Not at the Dinner Table / Re: A Survey This Is

« on: June 16, 2006, 11:24:15 PM »

may it vex me that christianity has influence over marketing in america, that really anoys me because state and church of SUPPOSED TO BE SEPERATE!!! There i said it Happy Now?? Geesh.

The Constitution doesn't talk about separation of church and state, but it is mentioned in a letter from Jefferson, I think (better find out more!).  Does anyone know why the US follows that?  I agree with it in some parts but other times I wonder if that idea goes too far.

Also, don't all religions have influence over marketing?

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General Chat / Re: What are you learning about in life?

« on: June 16, 2006, 04:11:30 PM »

Markio: Yeah, that's so true and very easy to forget.  We can't change the past so we just have to learn from our mistakes and keep moving forwards.  But I think you could have found an easier way to say it. ;)

PaperLuigi: Yes indeed.  But even greater and much more difficult is to live your whole life for God.  That's simply what I believe but for myself I'm seeing that it seems true.