Miscellaneous => General Chat => Topic started by: PaperLuigi on August 26, 2005, 04:19:10 PM
Title: A friend I once had.....
Post by: PaperLuigi on August 26, 2005, 04:19:10 PM
Has this ever happened to you? Okay, my Freshman year, I had a real good friend. He was funny, and always had a little bit of wit to him when he was tellin' a joke. Well, now he and I are Sophomores, and he has become a huge jerkface. I ask him a question, and the guy tells me to shut up. I dunno what happened to him over the summer, but I think it could be his ego. I'm not going to go into huge depth, but I really wish this had not happened. But the question is: has it happened to you? Ever had a real good friend who hates yer darn guts nowadays?
I have the body of a God! Unfortunately, it''s Buddah.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Lizard Dude on August 26, 2005, 04:54:21 PM
Not permanently.
Buddah's not a god.
"Soon this land will be as devoid of beauty as your face." ~Koal, Advance Wars Dual Strike
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: PaperLuigi on August 26, 2005, 04:59:41 PM
Meh......I know he's not a God, I just saw it on a T-Shirt, and thought it was funny. I can change my sig if you want me to.
I have the body of a God! Unfortunately, it''s Buddah.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Markio on August 26, 2005, 07:06:24 PM
Try out for a sport you're good at playing. That usually makes you look cooler, and therefore worthy of being befriendable. Yeah, just joking.
Um... I haven't seen my friends much from my old school that came to my high school, but I have other friends. Yes, believe it or not, I am actually a friend to other people. I think it might have been like, "Let's stay together because we know each other. Oh look at that, I got into a new group so I don't need to stick with you anymore. Hope you and your new friends have fun too. Bye." Er, what I'm trying to say is that I stayed with my old friends until I made new ones and we grew apart a little. Plus I felt like they didn't really want/need me around, so I could be with other people without feeling guilty. They might still say "hi" or nod or make eye contact, but they don't say "shut up". I mean, we didn't have any classes together anyway, but we still communicate in the classes we do have together. And not negative communication.
What advice do I have as far as action goes... don't throw a rock at him or dump water on him. That will make him mad, and while you shouldn't fear a person or feel inferior, you probably will have less chance to be friends with someone who you just dumped water on. (Author's note: I find "jocks" that dump Gatorade on each other to be just as weird as "Drama kids" that do drama stuff. Either everyone's equally weird, or I'm the only one who's weird.) You could also do something publicly awesome. Even if he doesn't like you, you still did something publicly awesome, which is awesome... unless you did something based on peer pressure... unless they were pressuring you to not do drugs or something...
“Of all the people I know, it is expected that Watoad will say ‘cheese’ first.â€
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Jin on August 26, 2005, 07:13:34 PM
I had a few friends that did the same thing. But if i were you I punch him if he tells you to shut up for no reason.'Cause thats just rude.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: PaperLuigi on August 26, 2005, 07:17:06 PM
Well, if I punch him, the school will most likely send me to some Juvy Camp. I don't think I wanna do that. It's a shame though, cause we were in the same classes and everything. It's his ego, ya know what I mean?
I have the body of a God! Unfortunately, it''s Buddah.
Edited by - PaperLuigi on 8/26/2005 6:22:53 PM
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Jin on August 26, 2005, 07:21:05 PM
Oh, then just talk to him and see whats been going on lately with him.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Markio on August 26, 2005, 08:12:30 PM
Or tell someone to indirectly tell him that your parents died and he'll forget about ego and comfort you.
"Of all the people I know-controversal, yes-that Watoad say cheese first."
Edited by - Markio on 8/26/2005 7:13:14 PM
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Vidgmchtr on August 26, 2005, 09:28:42 PM
Once, back when I was in 4th grade. He turned into a jerk after 6th grade, though.
I haven't seen him at all in the past few years.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: NintendoExpert89 on August 26, 2005, 11:27:07 PM
I was friends with one guy in the third grade up until the sixth grade, whereas he starting being a complete jerk with warning.
"My spirit burns like the sun and I shall dry you like a prune."
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: The Blue Toad on August 26, 2005, 11:31:43 PM
Everyone is weird in their own special ways. Even though I dislike it, there are social groups in school. There's the jocks, the preps, the goths, the band geeks (me!), ghosts, and stuff like that. I'm very quiet in school, so I don't really have anyone hate me. Although, I have seriously broken apart with some friends (even my best friend from elementaary school).
But, yeah. People change. From how I see it, everyone is so friendly and nice to each other in Elementary School. Why? Because we're young and too dumb to hold grudges. So all the friendly little elementary schoolers move on into middle school. Yes, middle school. Picture five young elementary school kids, holding hands, wondering onto a busy street, or a highway. CArs are zooming past them, they grow confused. Suddenly, before you know it, Samantha had jumped onto a car!!! What does it say on the side of the car? "Prep" Then Brad jumps onto a car. "Jock" Jen jumps onto "Goth" and Billy jumps onto "Nerd". You just drive with your own cars.
Unfortunately, I don't really think we can even tell what car we've jumped on. We just leapt, and landed. Only the others around you know what happened to you. Because inside, maybe you are the same elementary schooler.
So, basically PaperLuigi, these things happen. Forget about the poor soul who turned to a jerk. It happens. My sister's best friend is now a *clears throat* cheerleader. So, yeah.
It is better to be sworn to an honest fool than to a lying scholar. ~ Eragon from the book Eldest by Christopher Paolini.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Sapphira on August 27, 2005, 01:15:23 AM
Are you kidding me? Elementary school was the "evil battlefield" era for me. There were tons of cliques and people holding grudges, etc., and I always felt like I wasn't all that liked. Kids were mean and cruel then, though rarely to me directly (I overheard kids all the time gossiping about me, ugh--at least it seemed like all the time).
I tended to befriend the "misfits"--those who didn't really fit into any "clique" group and seemed nice and like they needed a friend. I sensed a disliking from the "cliques" because of this. Then again, I suppose I fit into that same "misfit" category.
So, throughout elementary school, I had many friends "betray" me; they would suddenly, out of nowhere, become incredibly mean to me, or just no longer hang out with me; they had found "better" people to hang with--the "clique" girls.
What's weird is that it never felt like all this in middle or high school, I guess 'cuz you weren't stuck with the same kids long enough for it to develop, or people were just "whatever" about everything.
Anyway, it's sad that what seemed like a great friendship turned into something sour. People change, and there's nothing you can do to...change them back. They have to change on their own, and hopefully they'll realize their mistakes. If you've done everything you can to see if things can be made right, I guess all that's left that you can do for now, since things aren't getting any better, is just try to avoid him as much as you can and hope he changes. Don't be mean or anything, though, when you can't avoid him.
I hate losing friends. It's probably one of the worst feelings in the world, especially when you're very close with them. :(
-------------------- Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
Edited by - Sapphira on 8/27/2005 12:19:38 AM
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Vidgmchtr on August 27, 2005, 02:20:59 AM
Back at the first Elementary school I went to, I had a few friends, they enjoyed Nintendo and TV shows I liked, such as the Simpsons and other shows. From Kindergarten to the 3rd grade, I actually enjoyed being with my friends at school.
(Yeah, I know, it's hard to believe, I actually did have friends.)
At the beginning of 4th grade, things started going downhill for me pretty quickly. When my friends heard that I was moving, they thought I was too good for them, so they pretty much did nothing with me the one week I was in 4th grade at that school. When I moved, I hoped that I could make many new friends at the new school I was going to. Boy, was I wrong.
The children in the class I was in were very rude, and insulted me pretty much all day. A group of girls always told on me whenever I did something suspicious, and the teacher was just plain mean. The guy I mentioned in my first post was my only good friend (though a couple of other people did warm up to me after a month or so).
5th grade was a bit better, as I made a few more friends, though it was a bit harder to, as I had gained weight because I ate more to forget about the mean students in the 4th grade.
Then, it was on to Middle School, the place where children are in between learning simple Math and English, and learning about Physics, Geometry and Calculus.
6th grade, I still didn't have many friends (Some had gone on to the other Middle School in the district), and there were just plain mean students who didn't deserve to be called human. I had also lost the only true friend I made in 4th grade, he had turned into a jerk.
I had a feeling that 7th grade was better, as usually, the odd grades I was in (1st, 3rd, 5th) were a bit better than the even ones. Once again, I was terribly wrong. The children in this grade were worse than the children in my 4th and 6th grade classes combined. The majority of them were people who listened to Rap and R&B, and were brainwashed by the media thinking that you MUST be thin to go on in life. So, I was pretty much the biggest target for fat jokes in that class (I was the only target, actually).
Sapphira is correct, you can't change people. They must change themselves. I'll stop getting into details about how children are mean and nasty in earlier years, because after I changed my classes in the 7th grade, things started to look up. I finally found a group of friends in 8th grade, and I went on to High School, and people are nicer now, my 9th and 10th grade years went quite well, with some exceptions of a few idiots I am usually able to shrug off.
And what happened to those jerks in 4th, 6th and 7th grade? They usually cut class, and do drugs, and some were probably held back.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: TEM on August 27, 2005, 08:44:03 AM
Am I the only one that doesn't have all these zany problems at school?
Time slowed and Reality bent. But on and on the Eggman went.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Markio on August 27, 2005, 11:12:22 AM
Yes, TEM.
Actually, I consider myself lucky. I went to the same elementary school since I was four until eighth grade, so most of us knew each other(only one class per grade). Once I got to high school, I was one of the very rare who doesn't fit into any group. I suppose you could call me a drama kid, because I took drama and was in the Spring Musical, but even there I wasn't as "drama"-ish as the others. I really just made friends with whoever from wherever. If I didn't get braces(which acted like a metal overdose; I'm kind of sensitive to metal) which helped put me on medication, I would've had a more happy freshman year. Now I'm a sophomore, I got my braces off, I'm almost done with my medication, and things are still fine. So I guess I'm lucky.
“Of all the people I know, it is expected that Watoad will say ‘cheese’ first.â€
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Mr. Koopa on August 27, 2005, 07:28:30 PM
I used to have a friend so good we did everything together. Suddenly he had a problem with my dad and yelled at him. Soon we stopped talking as much till finally he got mad at ME because i had other friends besides him. Now he's the biggest enemy i've ever had in my life. It's sad... But now I laugh at him because he.. Never mind, i don't spread rumors
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Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Vidgmchtr on August 27, 2005, 08:32:55 PM
"Am I the only one that doesn't have all these zany problems at school?"
They weren't huge problems, though I thought they were at the time. They never affected my school work, or anything like that.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Glorb on August 29, 2005, 03:03:42 PM
I remember this one friend I had that got all angry just because I killed all of his pets, poinsoned his water supply, burned his crops, destroyed his house, infected his computer with a virus, caused his parents to divorce, stole his car and crashed it, ate all his food, and put Anthrax in his mail. Sheesh, some people never stop holding grudges.
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Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Suffix on August 29, 2005, 07:20:05 PM
What's almost as bad as suddenly losing large amounts of friends is losing them slowly over time. In elementary school, I had numerous, fantastic friends who shared the same interests, morals, etc. But slowly over time, they drifted away into private groups, leaving me to my own devices. Either I couldn't bear to part with a certain amount of them to join a smaller group, or I was just squeezed out and deserted somehow, because I hardly changed.
It is my opinion that what brought us together in elementary school was the academically talanted program (PAT). After elementary school, that binding force faded away, leaving me with practically nothing.
A sad, unfortunate tale that I do not think is very uncommon.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Markio on August 29, 2005, 07:43:15 PM
Whenever I feel alone and don't have any work to distract me, I like to lie on the floor of my room with the air conditioner making it cold, and I stare out the windows into the vast sky, and imagine myself floating out there. All the problems in the world are little specks below me. I'm just drifting fluidly thorugh the various drafts in the deep blue that surrounds me. I'm a part of the sky. Then I sit up and I'm me again. Kind of a let down after a relaxing dream thing like that. Is that a form of meditation?
For some reason I think I like to think of indirect relationships. You know, like taping a flower to a girl's locker anonymously so they feel good or something. I need to do that one day. Making a person happy without the responsibility of... well, without making someone nervous by giving them the impression that some weirdo like me likes them.
“Of all the people I know, it is expected that Watoad will say ‘cheese’ first.â€
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Screech on August 29, 2005, 08:41:29 PM
My friends are all jerks. Their idea of fun is tackling me to the ground. But I love them to death anyway. Our school doesn't have a complicated social hierarchy, but we do have some of "those" kids that fit into the Television stereotypes. We've got a bunch of "nerds" and some "preps" and I think we have a "goth" somewhere. Nobody really has a problem with any other person's "clique". Most people just have one person that they don't like.
"At Dukar, we place our emphasis on serving you, supporting you, and helping you be as successful as possible."
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Trainman on September 02, 2005, 04:08:29 PM
"My sister's best friend is now a *clears throat* cheerleader."
I think I'm gonna like you.
I hate labels, but when I say "prep" or "goth" it's probably better shorthand rather than "the people who wear pink and have blonde hair and act snotty and act stupid and... blah blah"
I don't like "preps."
I like "goths." Don't say "dude you're stupid you're not depressed" because im like... the opposite of depressed and being "goth" doesn't mean you're depressed or any crap like that. I hate when people AUTOMATICALLY assume things right off the bat.... and don't quote that and say "Oh, well, you're judging 'preps' right off the bat" because I've dealt with them. I know what the deal is.
Some people are just "nerds" but like cool ones. Some people are like outright like... WTD is he even doing...
Ok, I don't think I could've put anymore "likes" in that paragraph.
Edited by - Trainman on 9/2/2005 3:09:14 PM
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Markio on September 02, 2005, 07:05:05 PM
Yeah, like I'm depressed but I'm not goth.
People are just people, and when you're true to your beliefs you often get pushed outside and it's not fun. Maybe that's why people hide behind conformity and image.
“Of all the people I know, it is expected that Watoad will say ‘cheese’ first.â€
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: PaperLuigi on September 02, 2005, 08:50:57 PM
I play sports, but I don't think I'm a jock. Not a true jock. A true jock is like an idiot who fails all his classes but is very popular in school and is a star athelete. I wish we didn't have all this "type of person in school" crap. We're all people, aren't we?
I have the body of a God! Unfortunately, it''s Buddah.
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Trainman on September 03, 2005, 01:41:14 PM
Heheheh, not according to Meowrik!
Title: Re: A friend I once had.....
Post by: Mr. Wiggles on September 04, 2005, 01:24:07 AM
I've always prefered being alone rather than constantly hanging around a group of friends. Most of the time if they drift away I just don't care. There's only about 5 of them that I actually would feel sad if they left permanently. But I keep in touch with them.
I wonder how this will carry over to whenever I get a girlfriend. Will I just get over in 2 seconds and go back to doing whatever I was doing before or what? Eh I guess it doesn't matter now.
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