I just think this whole mindset of "poor people are just too dumb to not be poor; it's their own fault for not picking themselves up by their bootstraps and being superheroes like me" is a larger problem endemic to our culture.
I agree with what you say. I made a post about getting motivated and stuff in the
Being Broke vs. Being Poor thread that sort of deals with that same quote. My post in it, at first glance, would seem like I'm being exactly what you're saying is an endemic. I was a bit more specific with who I was talking about (lazy high school kids), though, as a response to WarpRattler's comment.
To defend that post, I will say that I do understand other people's situations to a far extent, especially considering I was (and in some ways still am) in that situation. I believe that to succeed, there must be an effort put forth. On the flipside, I know exactly how it feels to be unmotivated and feel like you're spinning your wheels. To tell poor people the solution to their problem is "stop being poor," as WarpRattler feebly framed my post, is stupid; of course it's a lot more complex than that. That's just like people who would tell me to "just stop being sad" when I was going through my enormous rut. As if it's that friggin' easy.
Of course, I know that not everyone is in the exact position to do what I am doing at the moment, and I don't expect anyone to be doing everything I'm doing in order to be "on my level." "Be on my level" and all that I think is bull[dukar], personally. I can't
stand when older adults try to tell me that "I don't know what being stressed out is" because I don't have kids, a mortgage payment, a house payment on an upside down house, a light & water bill, a defaulted loan, and a million other problems. As if I have to experience those things in order to be stressed or anxious. People always seem to know who I am, telling me that, "you're a 23 year old kid. You don't have anything to stress over." So, even with the amount of stuff I'm doing, I get just as unmotivated or [dukar]ty feeling as the next person (usually worse), and I turn around and hear people say stupid [dukar] like what I said above every time they notice I'm not running around with an enormous smile on my face.
The point of that post was that if someone feels like they are in a rut and they want to change, they know that there is some way in the world to do it. I went from a morbidly depressed couch potato to a working student. That's not to say I got all extroverted and put on my A-personality and turned into an overly-motivated ******bag in order to do that. I just knew that in my inaction, I was getting the same result every single time and was going to get the same result for the rest of my life if I didn't even try to change something small. So I started making changes little by little and each change would give me a little taste of motivation and success. That's the way I started changing my life, not by saying, "Tomorrow, I am doing a complete 180."
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