Love is not bad, and shouldn't be avoided. In fact, it's the best thing you could ever give or receive, and leads to other amazing (and needed) things, like care, forgiveness, and personal growth. People just distort what love is supposed to be, sullying it and causing others to feel jaded. Love isn't what hurts us; the actions and attitudes of broken people (including ourselves) is what hurts us.
Who is this quoted from, it's a very clever piece of advice.
Thanks! :) To continue with the thought...
Platonic love is complete by itself. Romantic love might be a nice bonus, an
addition to the fullness of platonic love, but it's never complete by itself; alone it will always leave you empty and unfulfilled.
Another way to look at it is this: a romantic relationship is doomed to fail if there's not already a strong, deep friendship already there, because when the romance dies down, there's nothing left to the relationship.
In fact, I would say that if a person finds him or herself deeply longing, pining for a romantic relationship (or loathing them, for that matter), there's probably some sort of discord and disconnection in his or her friendships and other non-romantic relationships, either real or perceived. If perceived, it's likely due to one's own insecurities, which need to be realized and worked through. A romantic relationship won't solve these insecurities or feelings of disconnection, and it's probably a bad idea until you can feel deeply connected to others (platonically).
Note that this is different from thinking a romantic relationship would be nice or not being interested in one at the time.
A couple weeks ago, I wrote down some thoughts of mine regarding love and relationships (of any kind), some things I'm learning, and what kind of person I'm striving to be. It's directly related to my faith, which I understand not all of you believe, and I respect that. I thought I'd share it with you guys. You can find it
here.
