Meowrik, that is the most horrible thing I've ever heard you say.
"No relationship at such a young age means anything, and 99% of them will not be serious, and will end up in break-up. "
~If it's not serious, there shouldn't BE a bf/gf relationship. Most kids are not ready for a relationship and are unable to comprehend love. If YOU think relationships don't mean anything, then you are too immature. Maybe that's why people shouldn't BE in them at such a young age.
"Teenagers don't feel love yet. They have simple infatuations."
You are so incredibly shallow. Just because YOU don't feel love, it doesn't mean that Marlie nor anyone else doesn't either. Frankly, if there is no real love, people should NOT be in that type of relationship.
"Liking" someone is not love; thinking someone is "cute" or "a nice person" is not love; being attracted to someone is not love. THOSE are infatuations. But love is certainly capable for some people, but if one does not feel any, then what's the point of having a relationship? As you said, it won't last. Why would ANYONE in their right mind not want something to last?
"All these things were reasons I was reluctant to get into a relationship for the first time recently, but I felt I needed a better companion."
~Wanting companionship is not love. THAT is "rushing in" for the wrong reason. Sure, YOU may want to BE loved, but unless YOU LOVE that person too and in the same way, you'll just be hurting them. That is horribly selfish and just plain insensitive.
Personally, I don't even think people are even READY for relationships at ALL before age 16. They are just too immature, naive and selfish to know and be ready for what they're getting into. Some people mature faster, others slower, but if one is not able to really love a person, don't even go there.
Notice how so many relationships last barely 6 months? Or if married, end in divorce? When will people learn contentment!? Wait until you find someone you really love, who feels the same way as you, and starts out as your FRIEND and CONFIDANT *before* you enter a relationship. That way you know what the person's REALLY like and they're not just putting on a good face for you.
Maybe I'm just "old-fashioned" or "too traditional" in my thinking, but relationships are something to be taken seriously. But, hey, I will never understand how this backwards world works...
Marlie, I'm very sorry for what happened to you. One may tell another they love them, but unless there are actions and signs of it, it could just be empty words. If he broke up with you because he wanted someone "better" (more like him), then it's good that the relationship's over. You deserve better, someone who will truly love you, and will not jump in because they "like" you or simply want to be in a relationship with ANYONE. I know it hurts you, but unless he learns from that problem, if he comes back he'll just hurt you again. You will find someone someday if that is what you want, but just be patient. If you don't think you're ready to really love a person, seriously consider not worrying about it and concentrating on other things. You have your whole life ahead of you. :)
Meowrik, do not tell her to "get over it"--that just makes her hurt more. She needs to be introspective and look at the situation from her heart AND mind's point of view. One can't change the past, but they can learn from it.
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Wise men talk because they have something to say;
fools, because they have to say something.
Edited by - Sapphira on 6/9/2004 5:07:19 PM
