It was someone his age?!?!?! Wow, people just do not think about what they are doing. Anyway, about finding relief in music, if you play piano, It helps me to play a fast, vibrant song that I can just pound on the keys. And then proceed to a slower, more suitable song, such as the "Moonlight Sonata". Even if you dont play piano, listening to it works too, just not as effective.